Present

I want to be Present...

Now, this is not meant to be a "woe is me" post or a "social media is a life ruiner" post. I'm just going to talk about me and my circumstances. I'm going to try to reduce my online presence. Nothing happened, no one made me upset, I'm not fighting with my husband or any of the other reasons why people "quit" FB.

So last night as I was praying, in bed, way past my bedtime, I got to thinking about how I've been letting my phone be a distraction to me and in the quality time I spend with my loved ones. I want to deactivate FB but since it's such a vital part of MOPS, church and far away family, I know it's just not gonna happen.

What I did do, is delete the apps off my phone and blocked the mobile site because I've deleted FB before and then just gone to the mobile site, less often but still defeating the purpose. I just have it to where only certain websites are allowed so along with FB, is MSN and Yahoo. Pretty much any site you try to go to now, says it's blocked. Obviously, I can still access it on my computer but I want to go cold turkey on my phone. Instagram was pretty easy to give up. When something is becoming more important or gets in the way of your quality time with others or with God, it's probably time to reassess your dependency on it. Whether it be alcohol, games, your phone, drugs, etc.

Now I'm not comparing FB to drugs/alcohol because I know one is much more serious than the other. Just hear me out. I am going to be real and just try not to judge me.

My MOPS table was talking lately about putting things in the perspective of "Will it matter in 20 years?" Yesterday, Bri was showing me something but I was busy typing away a message and got a little frustrated with her because she kept bugging me. So last night, I thought, "In 20 years, will it matter that I read that article on MSN, Yahoo,  FB newsfeed at the time or replied to that email? OR will it matter that I put down my phone to give my daughters my full attention to show me something they're working on or want me to do with them?" Aha. So when you put it like that, doesn't it make you wonder? It WILL MATTER to them in 20 years to have a mom who always oohed and ahhed about a drawing, paid attention to something silly on a TV show or read HORRIBLE Barbie books with names weirder than hers and her sister's. This can also work for my husband too!

Some people can just not go to it or post so much about their life, I am not one of those people. I am trying to be a better mom and wife and this is one of the ways I can do that. Some people get really defensive about their use of their phone and listen, I'm not here to tell you how to live your life. It's just how I'm trying to live mine. I'm an open book which is why I decided to write a blog about it.

Also, my FB presence might be less than normal so if you need to reach me, send me a text or email. My goal was to be completely off FB including on the computer until my trip to AZ but with some MOPS stuff coming up, I can't really commit to that 100%. So, I'll start with reducing phone time. I want to be PRESENT. When your "baby" is already 2 and your other one is 5-1/2, you start really realizing, it goes by soooo fast. I want to cherish all that I can.



Thanks for reading.

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